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38 minutes ago, YuyoDrift said:

So what now? What's the next move for @Kira_Uchiha?

 

What now?
The same thing we do every night, Pinky - try to take over the worl-
Wait no x)

Well now, I'll just keep on going with my life, and do my best, strive to improve myself and work on my future, write as many songs as I can.

But as of rn, I'll focus on moving on first I guess, which is going to be quite a bitch since we go to the same uni and do the same course.

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Hi @Kira_Uchiha, I just wanted to applaud your tremendously positive attitude in staying focused on what is important to you because not many depressed people do! Whilst it is important to keep moving forward, I hope this does not mean you feel you have to keep improving or 'make something of your life' so to speak, because that's just another kind of pressure.

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On 2/21/2018 at 1:43 AM, meat said:

Hi @Kira_Uchiha, I just wanted to applaud your tremendously positive attitude in staying focused on what is important to you because not many depressed people do! Whilst it is important to keep moving forward, I hope this does not mean you feel you have to keep improving or 'make something of your life' so to speak, because that's just another kind of pressure.

Thank you :3

But you know, sometimes a little bit of pressure mixed with motivation is needed to keep going, and I realised that, albeit too late. I learned from my mistakes in my relationship about how complacent I was with myself, and that being stagnant drove me into a dark place. I don't want to do these things out of obligation towards my ex or anyone else, I want to do these because I believe it will help me being more productive, and happier. Ofc I will have to be careful not to burn out too.

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how i deal with depression or any kind of problem is-

 

i note down all my worries or problems in notepad and makes a kind of checklist/to do list

 

and solve each problem one by one. :) it helps a ton .

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After dealing with depression for a few years, I'll give some of my pointers (that worked for me.)

 

Seek Counseling/Support Group/Family

When things got rough for me, and I was feeling my worst; I felt like the last thing I should do was to "push" my problems on someone else. I would conflate that idea to completely isolating myself from friends and family, not making contact whatsoever. In that distorted mindset, you feel like everyone is better off without you and no one should worry about you, etc., but that is not true at all. Everyone still worries about you, and you're making it more difficult for yourself to get the help that you need.

 

We spend a lot of time thinking about ourselves, and our own failures/problems, so we have a tendency to think that others are thinking the same about you. That's absolutely not the case. Try your hardest not to dwell on the past b/c ultimately it's about who you become, people can change. Your past doesn't have to define you, in your eyes.

 

I was especially scared to tell my parents I was dealing with depression, b/c they didn't really "believe" in it at the time. I too convinced myself I was purposefully being lazy and neglectful, but when you spend a lot of your day sleeping/not moving/ignoring hobbies... that's not normal...

 

Like a couple others in this thread, feel free to inbox/dm me. I'm not a professional, but I certainly don't mind giving advice/people talking to me.

 

Please seek guidance from another individual, that one person or persons could be the catalyst for you to get better. Don't be ashamed of seeking counseling. I think more people need counseling, it's extremely helpful.

 

Getting a Physical/Blood Work/Medication

I ended getting up getting blood work done after coming home to find out I had a sharply elevated red blood cell count compared to previous tests done. Turns out that was from my lack of oxygen b/c of constricted nasal passages -> poor sleep, hence my constant tiredness (a sleep study might reveal sleep apnea, but losing weight & allergy medicine (helps passage constriction) has worked like a charm so far.) I was pretty sedentary for a long time, so I was severely out of shape too (which exacerbates said problems.) So while I was gradually becoming more fatigued (lack of oxygen/poor sleep, shit diet, no exercise) I was also taking on more classwork/work which caused a snowball effect.

 

If you can, seek your primary physician and get yourself checked out, you never know if it could be something else. Otherwise, don't be afraid of medication. Just make sure if you have any side-effects that make things worse, stop immediately and  seek your doctor for alternative options. 

 

Diet & Exercise

Yes, I did get a gym membership... I know there's a lot of hesitation b/c of costs, but I can assure you it is wholeheartedly worth it. I worked with a personal trainer for a few months and lost about 11kg/25lbs in that time-frame. I still have a lot more work to do, but I'm getting closer to a healthy weight. I feel better and I look better which has made me much happier :D. 

 

Stop the soda, stop the fast food, take vitamins/supplements, and cook for yourself. Drink water, drink water, drink water, drink, water... It seems like a hurdle at the start, but trust me it gets easier, so much easier. Also, go outside and get some fresh air, it helps too. You are what you eat/do.

 

Getting Organized

So once I got into an exercise/dieting routine, that helped kick-start my organizational tendencies.

 

If you make a daily planner, it helps put "meaning" into everything. It helps you inject more discipline into your life, which I find much more effective than looking for motivation. No, don't wait until someone tells you to do something, or you're prompted to do something -just do it, no excuses. It might seem cumbersome at first, but it helps structure your life tremendously.

 

You don't have to follow this in verbatim. Ultimately, everyone is their own and different things work for different people... But, I think these choices can help dramatically improve your quality of life.

 

 

 

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