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While this seems like an interesting board in itself, I have absolutely nothing to contribute here because I haven't been in a relationship yet. I'm also sure I can't be the only one on TW in this boat and I'm also pretty damn sure that there's gotta be one other single person on this forum. Whether you're just like me and haven't gotten that shot yet, don't have time, can't be a committed person, just got out of a relationship, have neurotic parents or fall into this category because of some other reason that I can't think of yet get in here and single it up.

Also, to give this topic a purpose post how you feel about relationships in general. I feel single people have more varied opinions about relationships than people in relationships do :mrgreen:

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I've never even been on a date :(. I just get really shy when I see an attractive guy and I immediately give up. I'm also scared of being in a relationship, I don't want to get hurt in the end, I can't trust anyone completely, so I'd probably stalk the other person and check if they are cheating on me.

Sometimes I feel lonely, but at least I'm free and I'm not addicted of some person who could make me suffer one day.

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Allllll the single ladies (and men), put yo' hands up.

I've been in a fair few relationships and I've had my share of regrettable one night stands.

In my opinion, relationships are not all they're cracked up to be and for several years now I haven't been interested in them. My last two were the final straw, really. My ex was controlling, patronising and... to be frank, she was everything I do not find attractive in a person. She would flip her shit if we didn't speak every hour of every day, would accuse me of thinking and feeling things I wasn't, of not being devoted enough and would go on and on about how she couldn't love someone who didn't love her explicitly. If I so much as expressed affection for a friend, she would be furious and I ended up resenting her. Eventually, she had the gaul to cheat on me when she was drunk and I told her I didn't have the physical or mental energy to put up with her.

This was a catalyst, combined with past abusive and destructive relationships, my friends attitude toward promiscuity and fidelity, my parents divorce and other personal matters. It's safe to say I'm turned off relationships for life.

That said, I find it disconcerting how much young girls rely on relationships. All I hear them talk about is boys, as if they're the be all and end all. The amount of girls wanting to have boyfriends, husbands, babies so young is appalling to me. One of my sister's friends is fifteen and pregnant, she wants to be a full-time mother and have as many kids as possible. It's all everyone, especially girls, seem to care about.

To be honest I have never been so content as I am focused on myself and my happiness. I work, I study, I socialise with friends and I don't need a significant other to validate me. I've been called pathetic for it a couple of times and my grandmother believes I should be married and settled down by now (at twenty-two!) but I have a hard enough time dealing with my own idiocy and over sensitivity, I don't want anyone else's baggage. I don't want to get married and I don't want to have children (later in life I might adopt). I want to live, travel and be happy. :P

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That said, I find it disconcerting how much young girls rely on relationships. All I hear them talk about is boys, as if they're the be all and end all. The amount of girls wanting to have boyfriends, husbands, babies so young is appalling to me. One of my sister's friends is fifteen and pregnant, she wants to be a full-time mother and have as many kids as possible. It's all everyone, especially girls, seem to care about.

For me, I honestly don't know. I have no reason to hate relationships because I haven't been in one to hate it but all the nonsense around me makes me not want to try. Imminent generalization here but...: I can't find a girl that's good for me around here. I hear it over and over again that I'm not enough of a "challenge" and that I'm too nice of a guy and that no girl will ever go for me because I don't conform to stereotypes (I also hear "don't give up!" a lot too so save it). I've been pushed aside so many times my friends and I have a running gag that divine intervention likes screwing me over. Then again, I keep my age in mind and keep telling myself that sooner or later they're going to have to get over their "bad boy" phase. When that will happen I don't know. I don't even know if I'll want to bother with them when it does happen.

Reason why I quoted SUBLIMINAL is because it's that sentiment that pisses. me. the. fuck. off. Everyone's so devoted like they're married and they rush through everything. I feel like Hitch because I'm always giving "advice" which is really common sense wrapped up in a ball of sass. The biggest reason that I probably am still single is that my general attitude is that I don't really need anyone and that's not what the common girl 'round these parts wants to hear. It's whatever though, relationships just LOOK like too much work for me when the people are in this kind of mindset. I've got no choice but to wait a few more years. I waited 20, I can wait another 5 or so.

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One of my sister's friends is fifteen and pregnant, she wants to be a full-time mother and have as many kids as possible. It's all everyone, especially girls, seem to care about.

EVERYONE?! Bullshit. I'm a girl and I HATE kids, HATE them a lot! They're loud and they're the most expensive toys which exist. Yes, TOYS, because many people want to have a baby just because or because my family wants me to have kids, etc and then these babies grow up being miserable.

I don't want to get married and I don't want to have children (later in life I might adopt). I want to live, travel and be happy. :P

Same with me. No marriage, no kids, more money and happiness :gaga:

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well i have been through this phase,

all i can say i, dating suppose to be fun.

Can be romantic but fun. It's to know each other.

How our significant other sees about relationship and life.

And how both can enjoy each other company.

I don't think we can really planned to get married or not to married.

I mean, i got an uncle that swore to never married,

he did for many years, but then he found someone that makes him comfort, and not feel used or taking advantage of, which things he fears the most by having relationship. And so they got married and he was 69 and his spouse was 53 when they tying the knot.

Also many examples how rushed marriage never last long.

Because usually both party having somekind of shock culture when they went into parenthood way too fast, and shocked to see the other side of each other that is not as good as they used to think and ruined every fantasies they had about each other of how perfect their lover is.

It will come for you when time is right,

until then just enjoy life.

Sorry, i hope i dont sound too lecturing

just sharing some D:

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I've been single for about 2 years already.. Imo,being single you can have such freedom without being controlled by someone else. Most couples fight about is money and jealousy. its a fact.

I never wanna get involve in love relationships anymore. It irritates me to think about the past.

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Single and happily so. I don't really know how I could work one into my life right now, gotta be focused on so much else, it would probably be a very strained one and the added stress is not necessary. So no plans for that right now. I could use a sugar daddy to fund my spending habits though lol. Kidding...kinda.

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EVERYONE?! Bullshit. I'm a girl and I HATE kids, HATE them a lot! They're loud and they're the most expensive toys which exist. Yes, TOYS, because many people want to have a baby just because or because my family wants me to have kids, etc and then these babies grow up being miserable.

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Same with me. No marriage, no kids, more money and happiness :gaga:

Me too. I will just live together with my current partner, if I have (still) one at that time D: no marriage, neither kids!

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Closeted fag is closeted

and alone

and sad

baw

Everyone I've known who's been in a relationship has been miserable.

come out, honestly. life is soooo muc better for it.

Hoi, im single. And im over chasing guys, they are cheating sluts. And then when i find a great one, im scared to progress it into a relationship cos im scared ill lose them as friends afterwards if things dont go to plan and we break up. Im loving being single, doing what you want, when, where etc. Not opposed to relationships, but its going to take someone AMAZING to change the fact im single.

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Imminent generalization here but...: I can't find a girl that's good for me around here. I hear it over and over again that I'm not enough of a "challenge" and that I'm too nice of a guy and that no girl will ever go for me because I don't conform to stereotypes (I also hear "don't give up!" a lot too so save it).

No girl will go out with you because you're too nice? What sort of dysfunctional relationships do these women want? Do they want obnoxious college frat boys who party and shove them around? What ever happened to being attracted to someone who actually respects your gender? :oro:

Not opposed to relationships, but its going to take someone AMAZING to change the fact im single.

Pretty much this. For now I'm in love with myself. :D

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"Nice guys":http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

Ok, such guys are really boring AND annoying.

That was me...when I was 13 and stupid.

No girl will go out with you because you're too nice? What sort of dysfunctional relationships do these women want? Do they want obnoxious college frat boys who party and shove them around? What ever happened to being attracted to someone who actually respects your gender?

I have no idea. I've had the luck of being in the complete wrong place to find someone.

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