patientZERO

i think the realization of it happening is finally kicking in and she feels more afraid. best thing you can do is just talk with her, give her time to sort out her thoughts if she needs to. rather than asking her if it's 'worth' continuing or not, let her know instead that you would like to 'know' if she wants to continue or not. its difficult choosing the right words when asking tangible questions like this but i think saying it this way softens it a bit. be clear that you want to marry and start a family. there's no need to rush things just because everyone else around you is living their life faster than you. relationships move differently for everyone.

Yes, she's Japanese and I talked to her about moving in together and starting a life together and she pretty much made it sound like she never wanted that. She wants to be together as a couple, but always live separately. Which is frustrating because one minute she'll tell me she never wants me to leave her side and another when she says she never sees marriage as an option. Legit, today when this all came up, I told her I wanted to get married and she kept saying she was happy and that she seriously wanted to get married as well. Then minutes later, she said "I always wondered why people get married, it doesn't mean I don't love you, I just know I need to stay alone."

I'm sorry for dumping this on you all.

hmm okay, well that gives it a lot more context. sounds like a very difficult situation indeed. i would just make it clear that you want to marry and start a family or you're out. sounds very toxic being around that kind of person tbh.