yomii
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Why am I so bad at comforting people? I can't listen to someone without feeling like I have to say something back, and if I don't know what to say, I feel useless. It wouldn't be so bad, but everyone just kind of expects me to "be there" for them when I know I'm not compassionate enough for that. Maybe I should re-evaluate whether I really want to become a therapist. I want to work with children, so I guess that'd be a bit easier as children generally tend to want a straightforward solution as opposed to the "there, there, it's going to be okay" that a lot of adults want (you'd think it'd be the other way around, but it's not), but it still wouldn't be totally easy for me.
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i feel you 100%, as you can see i even responded to the particular problem of how you're gonna be a therapist, not to the more emotional part of how you're not good at comforting people...i thought i was an unsympathetic beast, nice to know there are such people too and they are not really bad lol
does it have something to do with our mayers-briggs personality type btw?
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Why am I so bad at comforting people? I can't listen to someone without feeling like I have to say something back, and if I don't know what to say, I feel useless. It wouldn't be so bad, but everyone just kind of expects me to "be there" for them when I know I'm not compassionate enough for that. Maybe I should re-evaluate whether I really want to become a therapist. I want to work with children, so I guess that'd be a bit easier as children generally tend to want a straightforward solution as opposed to the "there, there, it's going to be okay" that a lot of adults want (you'd think it'd be the other way around, but it's not), but it still wouldn't be totally easy for me.
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Yes, hello, how can I go back in time and change my actions? I know I shouldn't mess with the space-time continuum, but AAAAAAAAA
Basically, I'm going with my grandmother and my brother to my favourite dessert bar tomorrow, only... in January, I went there with a friend, and we gave my number to a waiter who never texted me. I am going to die of embarrassment tomorrow! AAAAAAAAA
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i don't think so, who wants to talk about such things in front of someone's grandmother...but anyway even if they do, there is nothing wrong or shameful at what you and your friend did〜 and in case they say something really embarrassing it will be them who will behave as an asshole, not you.
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Yes, hello, how can I go back in time and change my actions? I know I shouldn't mess with the space-time continuum, but AAAAAAAAA
Basically, I'm going with my grandmother and my brother to my favourite dessert bar tomorrow, only... in January, I went there with a friend, and we gave my number to a waiter who never texted me. I am going to die of embarrassment tomorrow! AAAAAAAAA
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I was born April 1996
And I hope I die April 2019
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you know such things as successful career, family and true love are not so common, even among people who don't struggle with depression...but i think the point is in trying to achieve such things anyway. maybe you will achieve an ideal, maybe you won't, but step by step you will make your life much more comfortable. you've said you have some things to finish, and you want to find a better job, so it means you do have some goals in life, so, can't these goals themselves become your "structure" instead of geek stuff? if you find a better job that will be your first step to a good career. and maybe you'll meet the love of your life there~ maybe not, who knows. but anyway it will be more comfortable to work in a place that doesn't disguist you.
tell me about your cat btw .w.
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I was born April 1996
And I hope I die April 2019
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i know what you're talking about, my first ex commited suicide a year ago. of course it's not as bad as losing your relatives, i can't even imaging how horrifying it must be. but being half dead - well, i know that feeling. life is a fucking joke huh. i don't even think focusing on new things is a good solution - suppressing your inner thoughts doesn't solve the problem. idk what will work for you, but i've read some books and they helped me accept different things. i still don't think life is a piece of cake or something meaningful but now i'm like okay whatever, let's have some nice moments at least before i end up in grave
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I was born April 1996
And I hope I die April 2019
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well i'm afraid you can't just erase negativity completely, you have to learn how to live with what you have, trying to become a better self maybe? idk where i'm going with this tbh, but i don't really believe that one can "turn the page", "start new life" etc. so, like, it's not meaningless to fight with your negative self, but hoping for perfect results can make it all worse. and what does your negativity say to you when you try to do something meaningful?
i'm sorry if i'm talking bullshit or asking stupid questions ._.
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I sure do love payday aka congrats you get to pay your bills day
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I was born April 1996
And I hope I die April 2019
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I was born April 1996
And I hope I die April 2019
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I was always curious about how come the pv for Diaura's "Lost November" got aprox 1.5 million views on Youtube around the time it was released. I mean, Diaura wasn't a bit of the huge band it is today, and even the songwriting is pretty basic in comparison to the levels of excellent Diaura achieved circa "Triangle".
In fact, I remember feeling really meh at it by that time; actually got into the Diaura hype a years after when "Sirius" was released.
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How is Death Note so good?
I’ve watched so many anime and shows but there’s nothing like it.
I wish I could erase it from my memory and watch it again
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What are some reasons why people dont dig rshitei. The most recent single felt kind of like whatever but their last full length felt hella solid and it seems like mamo has alot of versatility . Idk maybe my standards are just low but they feel like a band that mostly everyone and anyone could fuck with
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i dont know anything abt mamo and tbh dont care too much, and i also don't remember what i thought of their earlier works, but i ended up having only one of their songs in my playlist (波瀾万丈、椿唄). i should try them out again later. speaking of their latest releases, both full length and erogro, although there were really good moments i always felt like it's not enough. as if they played safe not to sound too edgy or something. maybe it's for that versatility you're speaking about idk.
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ヴィジュアル系 is dead.
the "ヴ" character in japanese katakana is being removed this month
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It's too soon to lose another pet goddammit; praying for some miracle turnaround rn and I don't even worship anything.
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ヴィジュアル系 is dead.
the "ヴ" character in japanese katakana is being removed this month
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nick and Himeaimichu reacted to this
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What's your VK-related guilty pleasure?
Mine are the first Malice Mizer songs of the Gackt era: "Ma cherie", "Après midi", and the like.
The compositions sound so amateur, the keyboards feel so overwhelmingly cheesy, and the live performances are so pointless and clumsy... they make me cringe when I think of them too seriously, like "What the fuck was Mana actually thinking" but I can't stop siging them. Damn!
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i need catch up on my backlog and the two bands i really wanna peep next are emmurée and merry, any specific standout releases (albums, singles etc) or should i just do a deep dive on both of their discographies
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Sometimes I think about how much I dislike my old-fashioned middle name, but then I remember these ridiculous baby names:
* Abcde (pronounced "AB-suh-dee")
* Ikea
* Disney
* Moon Unit (Frank Zappa's daughter)
* Pilot Inspektor (Jason Lee's son)
* Bronx Mowgli (Pete Wentz's son)
* Bandit (Gerard Way's daughter)
* Buddy Bear (Jamie Oliver's son)
* Hashtag
* Facebook
* Like
* Window (middle name Coverings)
* Marijuana
* Felony
* Number 16 Bus Shelter
* Violence
* Midnight Chardonnay
* Girl
* Twins named Lemonjello and Orangello
* Brothers named Winner and Loser
* Lunar Module
* RonRico Bacardi
Also, Dovahkiin, but I admittedly quite like that. He was born on the Skyrim release date (November 11th, 2011) and the family now receive free Bethesda games for life.
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what are some good vk bands to check out with a heavy gothic influence, doesnt matter to me if its old school or new school
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Sometimes I think about how much I dislike my old-fashioned middle name, but then I remember these ridiculous baby names:
* Abcde (pronounced "AB-suh-dee")
* Ikea
* Disney
* Moon Unit (Frank Zappa's daughter)
* Pilot Inspektor (Jason Lee's son)
* Bronx Mowgli (Pete Wentz's son)
* Bandit (Gerard Way's daughter)
* Buddy Bear (Jamie Oliver's son)
* Hashtag
* Facebook
* Like
* Window (middle name Coverings)
* Marijuana
* Felony
* Number 16 Bus Shelter
* Violence
* Midnight Chardonnay
* Girl
* Twins named Lemonjello and Orangello
* Brothers named Winner and Loser
* Lunar Module
* RonRico Bacardi
Also, Dovahkiin, but I admittedly quite like that. He was born on the Skyrim release date (November 11th, 2011) and the family now receive free Bethesda games for life.
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violence is a cool name imo ٩(๑`ȏ´๑)۶ its like violet but spiced up a bit
ive always loved names of different oriental deities like parvati or tiamat for example, but its unreal to call your child like that in russia because by any means it wont match with middle name and surname lol. and anyway it sounds like too much...but i believe there are cute not too common names which will be more socially appropriated, just havent thought about that yet~
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Trying to keep back in to the know of VK. Band recommendations?
