ricchubunny

It's to do with drag culture. Implying that bandmen = drag personas

I see... It's very delicate. To be honest, living in Japan and being close with bandmembers  think they would get very offended being called like that (unless you refer to Kaya, he doesnt really care). 

^ Agreed.

Kaya is one of the few that actually delves into drag culture, even going to dragcons. However, most see themselves as men and like to be addressed as such despite their effeminate appearances (at least, that's what I've learned in my interactions with bandguys).