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    Gesu reacted to CAT5 in I think a lot of people think that those who have been abused need to forgive in orde   
    I do want to clarify my stance a bit, so ppl don't get it twisted or misunderstand me. I take a Hebraic/Biblical approach to forgiveness, and from a Hebraic stance, everything requires an action (or actions) - so forgiveness isn't just some disembodied emotion or an intellectual exercise. For true forgiveness to take place, it must first be asked for. This seems like common sense, but it's hella important.
     
    Secondly, true forgiveness requires restitution or restoration. So if you break my bike or something, then you can't give me a donut in return and expect me to forgive you. I have every right to withhold my forgiveness in that regard. Also, in terms of restoration, you have to go over and above in restoring whatever you took away or did damage to so that there are no hard feelings. So for example's sake: if someone steals your car, you're gonna be PISSED - but if that person restores not only the care they stole, but also buys you several more cars, then you're gonna be much more apt to not only forgive, but also to forget.
     
    Thirdly, forgiveness requires repentance  - which essentially means to turn from your way. Cuz it makes absolutely no sense to ask forgiveness, and then to restore, only to do the same thing again. You haven't turned from your way in that case. You have to prove that you've turned a new leaf and aren't going to do whatever you did again. So forgiveness is neither free nor simply emotional, but it's a process that absolutely requires action.
     
    This is forgiveness in its ideal state. But how many of us are living in a community or a country where the law is Torah? Where the law is righteousness itself? None of us are. So essentially, most of us are dealing with folks that don't give a fuck about forgiveness, or righteousness, or the evil that they do. So what do you do? What do you do when there's no path to forgiveness? What do you do when justice and restoration is impossible?
     
    Well, it depends on your perspective and understanding of the world itself. For me, I understand that our creator is just and loves balance, and he will not be mocked - so everyone eventually reaps what they sow. This is where I feel bad for people that are overcome by wickedness because they often have no idea of the path that they're on. That, and people who are caught up in wickedness can change their ways. They're still gonna reap what they sowed, but they can still change their ways at some point. I'm proof of that myself. So I have empathy there, because i know i've been in darkness too. And still wrestle with it everyday.
     
    So to close, no one is truly required to forgive, unless the requirements for forgiveness have been met. However, when those requirements cannot be met for whatever reason, for me personally, I find it best to fully experience the emotions associated with and let it go. To heal, essentially. Now that doesn't mean that i'm still going to fuck with whoever  transgressed against me, but at the same time, i'm not gonna let that person's actions weigh down my heart, and send me off into the kind of downwards spiral that @nekkichi mentioned.
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    Gesu reacted to colorful人生 in I think a lot of people think that those who have been abused need to forgive in orde   
    Can't speak for everyone, but trying to ignore or put aside your feelings is always a stopgap measure. While forgiveness can be one method, there are many other ways to confront your feelings; I think confrontation (internal or external) has to be one of the steps to healing.
     
    Also recognition/realization > rationalization. 
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    Gesu reacted to platy in I think a lot of people think that those who have been abused need to forgive in orde   
    It's healthier to recognise your feelings and be at peace with them imo, regardless of what they are. 
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    Gesu reacted to IGM_Oficial in QEDDESHET VK BAND OF THE YEAR WHO SAYS NO   
    Me
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    Gesu reacted to spockitty in Happy birthday, friendo! Have an awesome day~   
    thank you bb! =^-^= 
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    Gesu reacted to spockitty in Anyone know how to word a college dropout email? I poked around on the college websit   
    if you don't want to call the college admins or anything, maybe just write them an e-mail first asking what do you have to do to drop out? 
    when I was dropping out there were a bunch of forms I had to had signed before they took me off the list, like from the library and stuff~
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    Gesu reacted to psychonnect_rozen in Anyone know how to word a college dropout email? I poked around on the college websit   
    Make it formal I guess? Idk I’m not in college but don’t make it insulting. Just say something like “I cannot continue my semester” or something along the lines.
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    Gesu reacted to Zeus in Happy birthday, dude! Hope you have an awesome day~   
    thanks gesu
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    Gesu reacted to YuyoDrift in So I just.....got someone fired at work. I mean he's been written up so many times, b   
    Always a tricky one when it comes to things like this.
    Part of making decisions is accepting that it can make things better, or worse. You may see it (at least you should have seen this coming, no?) as a worst case thing, but later you may realize that it was a better decision overall, otherwise why think about reporting it in the first place?
     
    Not sure what they were written up times before for (or this time), but if you had not done it, someone else would have. Keep that in mind.
     
     
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    Gesu reacted to patientZERO in So I just.....got someone fired at work. I mean he's been written up so many times, b   
    Some people just need to get fired. It's probably worse keeping around a bad link than the small remorse you'll feel seeing him go.
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    Gesu got a reaction from itsukoii in baby started uni today   
    Ayyyyy, congratulations~! Have fun there
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    Gesu got a reaction from ambivalentideal in happy birthday!   
    Thank you~!
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    Gesu got a reaction from CAT5 in Ayyyye, Happy Born Day, lil sis! It's always blessing to see another year. Enjoy!   
    Thanks, bro~ I will!
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    Gesu got a reaction from monkeybanana4 in Happy birthday, @Gesu ! Hope you have a wonderful day~ ^^   
    Thank you~! I will
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    Gesu got a reaction from Komorebi in Happy birthday! I hope you have a great day ❤️   
    Thank you~ I will!
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    Gesu got a reaction from alehandroll in Happy birthday! 🥰   
    Thank you~!
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    Gesu got a reaction from ghost in Cat people talk is always a hoot:   
    *nuzzles your bubo*
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    Gesu reacted to IGM_Oficial in Cat people talk is always a hoot:   
    SUCH A BIG BUBO !!!
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    Gesu reacted to YuyoDrift in wish I had somewhere to go out looking fancy and shit~   
    Pffft, just do it.
    Never a bad time to look goooooood.
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    Gesu reacted to ahnchc in Who is the 30 year old fake elitist that hates anything outside of mainstream Japanes   
    MH? On reddit??? We made it😤🥵😝🤘🤘🤘
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    Gesu reacted to ghost in ... but why?   
    His left arm looks like a fresh loaf of Challah bread
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    Gesu reacted to nekkichi in ... but why?   
    to balance the fap hand?
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    Gesu reacted to sleepy coffee in Mamo from R-Shitei now hands out hair and nail clippings at lives. He is officially t   
    I mean shit I'd do the same if I was him, I love money 
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    Gesu reacted to psychonnect_rozen in Mamo from R-Shitei now hands out hair and nail clippings at lives. He is officially t   
    I bet he’s gonna jizz in a cup and sell his semen.
     
    This post is much better than the one where Mamo was exposed for being homophobic lol
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    Gesu reacted to Himeaimichu in Mamo from R-Shitei now hands out hair and nail clippings at lives. He is officially t   
    I like how when I roll my cursor over "Kawaii", the box says "Gross", which is the best way to describe this.
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