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    itsukoii reacted to Gesu in Single People Thread   
    What if your partner's not comfortable with having sex? It's easy to say "dump 'em" if they won't have sex with you but I'd feel awful if I did that. I'd feel like I was putting pressure on them and making them feel worthless/unloved purely because they didn't like something. Way I see it, friends talk to each other about porn quite a lot and they can have a laugh about all the porn they've watched, recommend some to each other, etc (generally speaking, anyways). Chances are, then, that you'll have done that with a partner for some time before you got with them. It just seems a little off to me to have to suddenly give all that up the moment you get together. I'm of the mindset that love and sex are two entirely different things and that the two aren't necessary for the other to exist in a positive way. That doesn't mean I condone cheating because I don't in any circumstances but if you wanna be in an open relationship, go for it, as long as you've negotiated it. Furthermore, if you wanna be in a sex-free romantic relationship or a romance-free sexual relationship, go for it. I think that if sex is a be-all-end-all of your relationship, you're not really in a relationship so much as you are in an arrangement and people shouldn't have to feel like their partner is the only person on Earth they can be physically attracted to. Sex is something to be discussed, not demonised.
     
    Idk if that sounded a bit rambly/judgemental but that's not how I meant it and I'm sorry if it came off that way. That's just my take, I suppose.
  2. I feel ya..
    itsukoii reacted to Bunny-Usagii in Single People Thread   
    My ex boyfriend hated VK and had no interest in music what so ever, so whenever I was working on sheetmusic or practicing the violin he didn't bother to have a look/listen to what I was working for hours on and instead played LoL.
    Also, I was only allowed to like Monyo from Babykingdom because he isn't conventionally attractive, meanwhile he kept bitching about my petite body and tomboy-ish personality, we met at an anime convention both cosplaying a dude, the same dude even.
    Not to mention, he watched a lot of porn and somehow was very up-to-date with Belle Delphine-like things (and the girl herself), but I wasn't allowed to check Twitter and look at pictures of bands every once in a while, because that made him feel like I didn't like him enough. :)))))))))))))
     
    Not dating a guy again that has no interest in music, or is easily jealous.
  3. I feel ya..
    itsukoii got a reaction from ghost in Single People Thread   
    ended my first relationship today (1yr 3 months). it went smoothly and i'm glad we mutually agreed we're better off as friends. but it still sucks, and after being in a relationship for so long i have this newly developed fear that i'll be alone forever even though i've NEVER given a shit about that lmao. hopefully it'll start to go away as i start focusing on my personal growth again. i regret none of it, because there was a LOT of valuable knowledge to take away from it. i start uni in the fall, so i want to take the summer to really get my act together. here's to a new chapter, i guess? i'm feeling optimistic, even if it's hard. i feel really relieved.
     
    if anyone has tips for dealing with a breakup tho, hey, send em my way ,,
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    itsukoii reacted to Splendor of beauty in Sex Songs   
    SUCK MY DICKKK LICK MY AAAASSS
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    itsukoii got a reaction from nullmoon in Single People Thread   
    ahahaha dating apps really aren't my cup of tea, but if i ever do decide to try them out for whatever reason i'll surely be careful
  6. Thanks
    itsukoii reacted to nullmoon in Single People Thread   
    You're most welcome! Glad to hear you've been taking positive steps and that things are working out! 
     
    One additional tip that I forgot to mention is to be super careful with dating apps. If you don't go in with the right mindset, it can easily undo all your hard work. I've learned that the hard way haha
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    itsukoii got a reaction from nullmoon in Single People Thread   
    thank you so much @nullmoon! been doing quite well since it actually, because i've taken a lot of time to focus on myself. i can agree it's really beneficial, and i've been so much happier!! i have a long ways to go before i know enough about myself to be able to enter another committed relationship, but i think i'm on the right path. thanks again, and i'm glad things have worked out for you too!
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    itsukoii reacted to nullmoon in Single People Thread   
    First of all, I hope you're ok! Breakups are rough, especially if you genuinely like each other. Sadly not all good relationships are meant to be but having this knowledge really helps you have a better sense of self. Things will work out in the end (at least that's what I keep telling myself). 
     
    I went through a similar thing back in March. We had different life goals and only realised it almost 3 years in. The relationship was starting to suffer due to these differences and it was getting me down so we had a big talk, had a big think, and mutually agreed to be friends. It's been almost 5 months and things have been completely fine and we still meet up to catch up, talk about our terrible love lives etc XD 
     
    The best thing to do is embrace your newfound freedom and start focusing on yourself. I've found it really beneficial to just do what I want to do for a change, whether it's playing games, reading, or going for a long drive. Use the time to learn more about yourself, what you want from life, and what you want from a relationship. It'll really help when the next person comes along! 
     
    I've spoken to a few women recently and instead of latching onto them immediately, I've assessed if they really fit what I'm looking for. Even though we would get on really well, the 'negatives' (shall we say) were too glaring to overlook in the grand scheme of things. However, knowing I'm more resolute in what I want now means that my future girlfriend/s will truly be a better fit and I'll be happier. 
     
    And don't worry about being alone. Statistically speaking there are hundreds if not thousands of people out there who you're truly compatible with. You just need time and confidence in who you want to be and things will work themselves out 
     
    Sorry for the essay, just thought I'd offload all the ideas that have helped me over the past few months
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    itsukoii got a reaction from nullmoon in Single People Thread   
    ended my first relationship today (1yr 3 months). it went smoothly and i'm glad we mutually agreed we're better off as friends. but it still sucks, and after being in a relationship for so long i have this newly developed fear that i'll be alone forever even though i've NEVER given a shit about that lmao. hopefully it'll start to go away as i start focusing on my personal growth again. i regret none of it, because there was a LOT of valuable knowledge to take away from it. i start uni in the fall, so i want to take the summer to really get my act together. here's to a new chapter, i guess? i'm feeling optimistic, even if it's hard. i feel really relieved.
     
    if anyone has tips for dealing with a breakup tho, hey, send em my way ,,
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    itsukoii reacted to CAT5 in random thoughts thread   
    Please take what I say with a HUGE grain of salt...cuz I ain't no expert or any of that shit, but imma keep it 💯 with you. We tend to over-complicate things. I think the main reason most relationships fail is because ppl are ultimately more committed to themselves than anything else. I mean, outside of glaring incompatibilities and straight-up abuse, there really isn't much that two ppl who are TRULY intent on making things work could not overcome.
     
    But generally, muhfukkas just don't wanna make sacrifices or put in the effort. We generally take the path of least resistance. You also have a lot of ppl that'll deceive themselves and use the flaws in a relationship as an excuse to opt out of that relationship, when in reality, they have ulterior motives and just wanna do whatever they want to do. These are the kind of ppl you usually find jumping from "relationship" to "relationship". But those ppl are idiots cuz guess what?  EVERY relationship is going to have issues. Every relationship is going to face conflict. Why? Cuz ain't nobody perfect. We all fuck up. We all make mistakes. But what makes a perfect relationship? 2 ppl who never stop giving a perfect attempt at it.
     
    But see that takes heart. That takes courage. That takes patience. That takes forgiveness (a damn near infinite amount). That takes maturity. But see ppl fuck themselves over thinking relationships are supposed to be all sunshine and rainbows. Ppl think that relationships are for your own "happiness", but you'd have to be a damn fool to think that. Happiness should be a byproduct of your relationship, but it should never be the goal of your relationship. It's a fuckin' emotion - which means it's flimsy as fuck. You're liable to feel a million different emotions in one day, so to make something as unstable as that the very foundation of your relationship is silly. What's gonna happen as soon as you don't feel "happy" anymore? Usually, that's when strange penis and vagina starts looking REALLY appealing to folks   Next thing you know, you dun ruined your relationship over a temporary emotion. I digress.
     
    Relationships are going to test your fuckin spirit, and you gotta be prepared for it. Anybody who truly loves you is going to keep it real with you, and so in contending with them, they're going to reveal things about you that you didn't even know. You're going to experience sides of yourself (good, bad, and UGLY) that you didn't even know you had. A good relationship is going to bring all of this out. Suppressed trauma will surface. Scars will be picked at. But you have to be willing to face all of this. The good, the bad, and the ugly. You can't just expect the good, and ignore the bad, cuz that shit's going to get ugly inevitably lol. You have to be willing to realize that, yeah, you do have some bad and ugly parts of yourself that you need to work on. You have to be willing to grow. Your partner as well. That's why patience and forgiveness is so paramount. And it's a neverending process...but it's going to make you a better person and continue to refine you.
     
    So you see why commitment is so important. I mean, REAL commitment. Most ppl don't wanna go through all of that stuff that I just mentioned. You'd be shocked at the lengths ppl will go to to avoid dealing with themselves, and a good relationship is going to force you to confront yourself and your issues. We live in age where all ppl wanna do is be comforted. Don't nobody wanna voluntarily put themselves through something like that. Don't nobody wanna jump in the fire. And honestly, a lot of ppl would rather jump ship than face the depths of their very own heart.
     
    But anyways lil sis, I know my tone and my language can be harsh, but don't let me frighten you or anything. I'm just trying to keep it real with you and let you  know that relationships take a dead-serious level of commitment and spiritual maturity. It's going to be a challenge. But accepting that challenge is actually way better than not doing it imo. When both you and your partner fully commit and both of you look at the relationship as something you're in together...as "us vs the problems" and not "me vs my partner"...when you're both willing to face that fire together and understand that tough times WILL come...your experience will be much deeper, richer, and fulfilling....a lot more than simply looking for fleeting "happiness" in other ppl.
     
    You gotta be willing to make an effort tho. That's actually one of the functions of marriage, aka making a covenant with your partner. You make a vow to stick it out, so when issues arise, yall gotta figure that shit out. Cuz like I said, most ppl will take the path of least resistance and leave a relationship/partnership before even trying to work shit out. Especially in these days where ppl feel like they have infinite "options" via social media alone, and treat ppl as if they're expendable. Shit, muhfukkas is unfriending ppl left and right over simple-ass disagreements these days. Petty shit. That's the kinda world we're living in today, so a lot of ppl have no hope of actually being in a successful relationship being that damn petty lol.
     
    Anyways, hopefully I said something that made sense to you. I talk too damn much
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    itsukoii got a reaction from Komorebi in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    thank you :// and lmfao right? they were all "but he doesn't understand lesbians(??? LOL) and he'll be so confused so yall should just stop!!!"... honey i think an almost 40 y/o man knows what lesbians are and wouldn't give two shits if a bunch of them loved him. sure he might be puzzled if someone went up to him during the m&g and told him about it (which nobody did, but for some reason a bunch of people were convinced we would harass him about it during the m&g??) but like you said, he wouldn't be losing any sleep. let lesbians have their fun ok
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    itsukoii reacted to platy in Unpopular Opinion   
    Just because someone is wearing sexy clothing doesn't mean they deserve sexual harassment. Yes it's only natural for people to look, but wearing a sexy cosplay doesn't mean you can just shout obscene things and grab people. If someone can't behave themselves around exposed skin, they are the problem. We're supposedly an evolved species who should be able to look past our urges at this point. 
     
    Society has been making money off women's sexuality for yonks, but now that women have chosen to make money off it themselves certain people feel threatened. 
     
    I don't like the trend of sexualizing every single character that has ever existed, but if these cosplayers wanna get their coin (and more importantly there IS a MARKET for that type of service) that way who are we to argue? They're simply grabbing the bull by the horns so to speak. 
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    itsukoii got a reaction from GreatNorthernVK in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    thank you :// and lmfao right? they were all "but he doesn't understand lesbians(??? LOL) and he'll be so confused so yall should just stop!!!"... honey i think an almost 40 y/o man knows what lesbians are and wouldn't give two shits if a bunch of them loved him. sure he might be puzzled if someone went up to him during the m&g and told him about it (which nobody did, but for some reason a bunch of people were convinced we would harass him about it during the m&g??) but like you said, he wouldn't be losing any sleep. let lesbians have their fun ok
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    itsukoii reacted to Zeus in random thoughts thread   
    You may be busy, but your mind can wander. At least mine has the propensity to. I thought I was busy until life kicked me in the gonads so hard I didn't have time to worry or think. I just had time to do. I was in survival mode then. Before I knew it, I went two years without thinking about relationships in the most neutral zen state of mind ever and because of that I stumbled into my current relationship. By that point, I didn't even want it. It was hell, but it was also tranquil. I don't suggest you put yourself through hell to suppress your feelings, but just beware of where your mind wanders when it goes off. It can come back with thoughts and feelings you don't need and aren't prepared for. 
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    itsukoii reacted to nekkichi in random thoughts thread   
    look up dealing w. rebound relationships
  16. I feel ya..
    itsukoii got a reaction from Gesu in random thoughts thread   
    been on the verge of crushing on a completely unobtainable person lately. must just be the universe telling me to never love again lol
  17. I feel ya..
    itsukoii got a reaction from nullmoon in random thoughts thread   
    been on the verge of crushing on a completely unobtainable person lately. must just be the universe telling me to never love again lol
  18. I feel ya..
    itsukoii got a reaction from platy in random thoughts thread   
    been on the verge of crushing on a completely unobtainable person lately. must just be the universe telling me to never love again lol
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    itsukoii got a reaction from monkeybanana4 in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    thank you :// and lmfao right? they were all "but he doesn't understand lesbians(??? LOL) and he'll be so confused so yall should just stop!!!"... honey i think an almost 40 y/o man knows what lesbians are and wouldn't give two shits if a bunch of them loved him. sure he might be puzzled if someone went up to him during the m&g and told him about it (which nobody did, but for some reason a bunch of people were convinced we would harass him about it during the m&g??) but like you said, he wouldn't be losing any sleep. let lesbians have their fun ok
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    itsukoii reacted to psychonnect_rozen in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    I’m sure everyone in The Gazette have common sense lol. I’ve seen videos of them with fans and they seem pretty damn nice people.
     
    Like, I don’t think Reita would be THAT dumb. Confused, yes, but not outright stupid.
     
    I swear the Gazette fandom has some interesting people. And by interesting, I mean outright insane and entitled.  
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    itsukoii got a reaction from suji in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    thank you :// and lmfao right? they were all "but he doesn't understand lesbians(??? LOL) and he'll be so confused so yall should just stop!!!"... honey i think an almost 40 y/o man knows what lesbians are and wouldn't give two shits if a bunch of them loved him. sure he might be puzzled if someone went up to him during the m&g and told him about it (which nobody did, but for some reason a bunch of people were convinced we would harass him about it during the m&g??) but like you said, he wouldn't be losing any sleep. let lesbians have their fun ok
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    itsukoii got a reaction from Gesu in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    thank you :// and lmfao right? they were all "but he doesn't understand lesbians(??? LOL) and he'll be so confused so yall should just stop!!!"... honey i think an almost 40 y/o man knows what lesbians are and wouldn't give two shits if a bunch of them loved him. sure he might be puzzled if someone went up to him during the m&g and told him about it (which nobody did, but for some reason a bunch of people were convinced we would harass him about it during the m&g??) but like you said, he wouldn't be losing any sleep. let lesbians have their fun ok
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    itsukoii got a reaction from psychonnect_rozen in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    thank you :// and lmfao right? they were all "but he doesn't understand lesbians(??? LOL) and he'll be so confused so yall should just stop!!!"... honey i think an almost 40 y/o man knows what lesbians are and wouldn't give two shits if a bunch of them loved him. sure he might be puzzled if someone went up to him during the m&g and told him about it (which nobody did, but for some reason a bunch of people were convinced we would harass him about it during the m&g??) but like you said, he wouldn't be losing any sleep. let lesbians have their fun ok
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    itsukoii reacted to GreatNorthernVK in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    I was following that too. Sorry you and your ex got harassed by that asshat.
     
    Honestly, they made a huge deal out of nothing. Claiming that Reita’s feelings would be sooo hurt by “Lesbians for Reita”. You want to know how most straight guys would react to news that lesbians are stanning him? “...Cool!”
     
    I highly doubt that Reita loses sleep at night because “Oh no! Not lesbians!”
  25. I feel ya..
    itsukoii got a reaction from GreatNorthernVK in Crazed, creepy, and downright annoying fans?   
    i'll sum up the gist:
    they attempted to turn an innocent twitter tag (lesbiansforreita, a joke from the lesbians in the fandom saying he was our protector/leader, can't remember why or how it started but it was some innocent fun) into a bully tactic against wlw and claiming my ex was a pedophile (she wasn't, i was 17 and we had a strictly romantic relationship) before doxxing her, saying that tag was a "cover up" for these pedophilic assumptions of theirs. there was a whole gc behind it that didn't like my ex for one reason or another, so they teamed up and did all this, feeding into the vkeifanexposed that claimed to "expose bad fans" but it was extremely biased and seemed to only go after this one person, who (imo) had done nothing wrong. it's all kind of a blur to me now but i THINK that's the gist
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