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    The Piass

    New band "The Guzmania" have formed

    They held their first live today at Takadanobaba AREA. Their first mini album 「開花前夜」(Kaika zen'ya) will be released on 2019.06.26. Limited edition : CD + DVD Regular edition : CD Members : Singer : 時羽(Tokiha) Guitarist : YOSHIO Bassist : ちょび(Chobi) (ex-DIV) Drummer : テツヤ(Tetsuya) Twitter : https://twitter.com/TheGuzmania Website : https://theguzmania.com/
  2. 5 points
    saishuu

    Am I a bad person?

    Look, I've seen you here a couple of times trying to be a shoulder to cry on for some people voluntarily. Perhaps you shouldn't go around trying to help everyone in sight? I don't mean that in a bad way, just something to work on in order to prevent these feelings from coming up. What I've learned over the years is that people need to come to you specifically if they need your help. Most importantly, you can't (and probably aren't even equipped to) deal with other people's issues yourself. People, as much as it sucks to accept sometimes, need to deal with their shit on their own. Their own time and own terms. It doesn't mean you're a bad person or uncompassionate - sometimes the most responsible thing to do is refer the person that's hurt to someone else that's better equipped to handle those things. Sometimes you can be there to comfort them and try to talk them out of a rough situation, but it's up to the person in question how they'd prefer to better handle their feelings. Some people, however, just need to bring you down to their hole with them. Just be aware of those and make no mistake in cutting them off. No matter how bad they might feel and the amount of help they need, they might turn into a toxic person without even realizing it and if you're not aware, you'll be down there with them. I understand where you're coming from, but don't feel too bad. I hate to bring up this card, but you still seem relatively young, right? With more experience in your adulthood, I'm sure you'll be more at comfort to deal with a lot of situations in life and relationships with those closer to you. Don't beat yourself too much and just give it some time.
  3. 4 points
    ゼロ(*´з`)

    DELUHI

    reviving this thread to give a commentary of their april 19th revival live at tsutaya o-east in shibuya. i was lucky enough to score a ticket and go, and aaa, too many feels... ~ setlist ~ 1. hybrid truth 2. rebel sicks shadow six 3. freedom 4. flow snow 5. wake up 6. shade 7. ivory and irony 8. the farthest 9. no salvation 10. follow the future 11. g.a.l.d. 12. revolver blast 13. frontier 14. skapegoat 15. baby play 16. f.t.o. 17. departure ~ encore ~ 18. remember the rain 19. vivid place 20. coda 21. orion once again 22. two hurt
  4. 3 points
    lichtlune

    Am I a bad person?

    I will just say that people aren't always looking for you to give them advice when they have problems. Sometimes people just need to vent out a bit. Not even a shoulder to cry on per-se. Don't always feel like you need to always give someone a solution to their problems.
  5. 3 points
    The Piass

    New band "The Guzmania" have formed

    They speak English, so you can talk to them !
  6. 2 points
    CAT5

    Am I a bad person?

    The fact that you're even asking this question shows that your heart is in the right place. Just do what you can and leave it at that. There's no use in burning yourself out trying to ignite fires in other people.
  7. 2 points
    omg chobi my boi is finally back too this literally made my whole week
  8. 2 points
    Gesu

    New band "The Guzmania" have formed

    Fuck yes
  9. 2 points
    Sickle

    Am I a bad person?

    Of course you're not a bad person, you don't try to hurt someone, we're all different in every way, it's difficult to stay true to yourself and be socially acceptable sometimes, but it's part of being a social animal, I can put me as an example, I've anxious depressive disorder and a lot of times I have horrible thoughts about everyone, but when I start working I need to smile to everyone cuz I work in a hospital and I know all these people are suffering from horrible diseases, and here I am helping them and their families, at least for me that changes everything and full my heart but it's not easy start the day with horrible thoughts and then smile for everyone and making them comfortable so talking about you again (sorry for the self centered prick example) in general people want to hear comfortable comments because sometimes they don't want the truth, just hoping for carry on in their lives, every brain has different concepts of life for their experiences and thats awesome and horrible at the same time, so cheer up you're not bad, you're just true to yourself and if someone wants to be your friend is going to be not because you can help them, it's because they really loves you as a whole if someone drags you down, he/she is making you suffer that isn't kind enough to understand that they're hurting you too and you need to move one, suffering is part of our lives, but that is not a reason for keep it
  10. 2 points
    jaymee

    Am I a bad person?

    Imho I’m not very good at comforting people either, but I try. I think part of this disconnect stems from the fact that I don’t go to people for comfort beyond wanting to cuddle with the H, since I’m well aware going to other people won’t actually solve the problem. And that’s the thing... you usually can’t fix something for someone. You can be there and hold them why they cry and give them a safe space to vent, but they shouldn’t really have expectations beyond that, nor is it reasonable for them to expect you to drop everything to help them every time. I had this one friend who kept coming to me for advice every other day after making one bad choice in her life after another and that shit was exhausting. It got to the point where I was dreading her messages because I had no desire to waste what little free time I had each day on her clingy need for attention or validation for the dumb shit she was putting herself through. I could understand if she was going through a bad patch in life atm but this was just her dating a serial cheater and getting mad about it, drama over her dating a married man before that, family drama bc she’s unmotivated to do anything with her life, etc. She needed counseling or therapy, not me. While I do think there is some merit to trying to comfort a friend in the way they need (which may not be the same way you would need), it’s difficult for them to expect you to figure out that need, and daunting or possibly toxic if they expect it often. Especially when you’re working 8-12 hours a day, have a s/o and/or kids and pets, or have a healthy social life, imho it’s rude of “friends” to constantly steal your small amount of personal time each day over problems they don’t really need to involve you in.
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    Paraph

    Your last music-related buy!

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    helcchi

    DELUHI

    lol Aggy's sleeve was fake haha. He drew it on with a sharpie xD I might write up an official report here, as I was at both lives, but need to gather my thoughts first. They finally played The Farthest and No Salvation after skipping them the first night, but the whole time Juri was looking down like he was reading the lyrics 😅 There were also a few songs they didn't play at all... I really wanted to hear yomi no yuzuriha instead of some of the other songs they played twice Although they didn’t wear their old costumes, it was nostalgic to see Leda brandish his old Cygnus again. The guy right next to me caught Sujk's drumstick at Blitz, and I've never felt so frustrated at being so short as I was in that moment. But I caught Aggy's hair piece at O-EAST which was only a small consolation.
  14. 2 points
    There should be more stuff shared like this on YouTube...
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    Alsdead14

    Am I a bad person?

    Well, you just acted the way you thought was good for them. Sometimes, you can't help people if they don't want to be helped. You can't make them do as you what them to do stuff. They have to learn their stuff themselves. Maybe it's time to think more about yourself and focus on what's important in your own life. Try surrounding yourself with people more positive, because yes, as the guy above me said, some are toxic, they are just there to bring you down (talking from experience). Again from experience, I was the shoulder that people cried on it, and well, there's not much people around me anymore. I got fed up of being used all the time. So I change my life and I'm trying to move on. Like I said, focus on what makes you feel good, people you enjoy being with people who don't put you down or use you and well, being rational with people who struggle with their feelings is not a good mix too. Sometimes, they don't want to hear the truth, they only want to be heard. That's a part too you have to consider. Some people just need to talk, heck, everyone love to talk about themselves, so you just listen, and well, if it affected you negatively, you just move on. Not easy, but yeah, as the guy said above, you are still young, you will learn with experiences. I hope you can meet people that are nice to you, and well, I also saw you a lot on the forum lately, you look like a nice person to me, so don't let them bring you down. Have a nice day!
  16. 1 point
    Gesu

    Am I a bad person?

    Lately, I've been thinking about how uncompassionate I must seem to people who come to me with problems. I believe I said this before in a status update, but whenever someone tells me something bad that's going on in their life and they feel the need to vent about it (by which I mean something that's really affecting them, not just your average "I woke up late", "I got splashed by a bus", etc), I'll either give them cold, hard advice or direct them to someone who can if I don't have the answer. I can't just hold someone and tell them it's going to be okay. I can't be that shoulder to cry on when it all goes wrong. I can't tell people that everything's going to be okay because all I can think of is that it might not be. I think the worst part about it all is that I always tell people they can come and talk to me, and they do because I'm apparently an easy enough person to talk to, but whenever they do, they never like what I have to say because I think they see me as a bit too forthright when they'd rather have someone just smile and comfort them. I just disappoint them. People here have told me that I'm a good person and that it's not my fault, but that's only because they've never come straight to me with an issue before. I've begun to think that the problem really is with me because it's happened too many times to just be a coincidence, but I don't want to change the way I deal with things because I'm only doing what I'd want someone to do for me. Also, I think it's worth noting that I have actually fallen out with a few people because of this. I told them I couldn't keep seeing them anymore if they were just going to say the same things over and over again without giving my ideas a chance, and that they were getting me down, and when I said that, they just got really upset and I heard from the person who was relaying our messages to each other that those people were considering hurting themselves. At the time, I thought they were just being clingy and blackmailing, but I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the one who fucked up. I don't like people becoming too dependent on me because... well, what if something happened to me? As unlikely as it may be, I could die tomorrow and I wouldn't like to think that that would be the end for everyone who ever trusted me, but... maybe I should just let them depend on me? Aren't friends supposed to do that, and to get upset when someone leaves them for whatever reason? Maybe I'm just too cold-hearted to gauge that. I suppose I haven't exactly proven to be the most understanding person in the world. Haa, I vent quite a bit meself in this forum, so mayhaps I'm just a hypocrite. It's few and far between, but still. Anyways, what do you guys think?
  17. 1 point
    jurideluhi

    DELUHI

    (old visual look) (recently) Official Page Official MySpace for new listeners,I recommend you to listen "Orion once again", "s[k]ape:goat"," Hoshi no nai Yoruni" or "Hybrid Truth". Its the best of all their releases up till now imo. Discuss any info or any questions about this band here at this thread. ;D
  18. 1 point
    123Sandman321

    Am I a bad person?

    This is not a question of right or wrong, no one can even attempt to answer that and think theirs is the only truth. But, thing is, compassion will never be an equivalent exchange. It's something you give without expecting something in return. A genuine helping hand shouldn't be followed by the second one, demanding. But that's beside the point, just a thought I had. You seem like a kind person, but too keen on keeping up appearances. Do you think that you, yourself, are a bad person or are you worried that your peers might perceive you as such? Are you looking for validation, here, to escape the lack of it from people actually in your life? I know, that I might be asking some nasty questions, for that, I'm sorry, but you need to learn to just not give a shit sometimes, I think I've even told you before and I wasn't the only one, but here we are I know it ain't as simple as that, but one day, you will burn yourself out, I know, for I've been there. In essence, you tried to help, didn't work, well, either try harder (if you want to or are able to) or move on (if you aren't). Sounds easy, right? It ain't but I believe that you are strong enough to find that balance, since you set out on the path. And whatever the ones affected might think of you? Well, tough luck for them. If I had to worry about what other people might think of me, because of my actions, beliefs, appearance, etc., I'd be fucking dead from stress, for years, now
  19. 1 point
    ajisaii052

    Am I a bad person?

    I think also I know what you are talking about, sadly. I do not know you personally well, but instantly I felt you are very friendly. I listened other people's sadness and problems in social media also. I am also person it is very difficult to say 'no'. I burned out ._. So I worked too much, and always done, what people were expecting from me. Result: Nowdays I am on almost all the time 'on holidays' from social media. And I figured out it's really helping. I said that I am not very social person, and not very talkative. That's true. It's taking a huge amount of energy to talk with someone. Not now 😋 I am basically very shy person, and (try to be also perfectionist, lol ) That's why so many are misusing me also. I feel very deep someone's mood (sadness, disappointment, etc) And feel empathy. So that's why I keep long distance with people in social media. Even I miss my friends. I have to do it, so that I am capable to live normal life. Sitting beside computer 24/7 is not healthy to anybody. I had to take off, and I realized I cannot do so much any more also. I found some pages I read things that I have to take better care of myself and not care about other's opinions about me. But I still do. I think you are the same kind (??) Stay away from toxic people, I have to decide that by myself couple months ago. 😌 Even it means I cannot talk with my friends ._. I am also very competitive (unfortunately) and I have to learn not to be like that. I wish everything good for you 😺 Every time I feel bad my medicine is stay away from social media, and spend time with my cat ❤️ And sometimes I just listen beautiful music. Do not ever people misuse You ^^ This is the longest comment I've ever written to MH 😋
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    Gesu

    Am I a bad person?

    That's what gets me, though. People expecting me to just sit there and listen while they're not prepared to listen to me. I know now that I shouldn't always try to help everyone, because I can't, but I have to say something even if it's not advice but I don't know how to do that. I guess I'm just awkward in these situations.
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    isn't "shimon" what Michael Jackson use to say? Anyway, I've seen that lead singer somewhere before and I can't quite put my finger on it o_e
  22. 1 point
    There's your answer
  23. 1 point
    Glad they changed their name, it would've been confusing to have two bands named Warumono and Uramono.
  24. 1 point
    Gesu

    DELUHI

    My heart hurts
  25. 1 point
    Gesu

    Am I a bad person?

    Thanks, guys! You've all been really helpful I'll try to take a break from the more negative people in my life and only be there for people if they can understand that I have limits, then.
  26. 1 point
    Gesu

    new band "シモン (Shimon)" has formed

    The guys look beautiful and that spot is pretty interesting. I'm just hoping it follows on from that dark theme instead of disappointing with a generic metal song.
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    asagaos

    new band "GCMZ" has formed

    If I'm not mistaken, vocalist Yuma was Shellmy's roadie.
  30. 1 point
    Nope, but i think you can use a shopping service to order it.
  31. 1 point
    patientZERO

    new band "GCMZ" has formed

    My initial thoughts exactly.
  32. 1 point
    Saya's vocals sound...weird here. I think it's production more than anything.
  33. 1 point
    Fking hell yes i cant wait undo has been stuck in my head for weeks.
  34. 1 point
    TheZigzagoon

    Am I a bad person?

    Another perspective to look at as well is that a lot of the time, people only like to hear what they’re hoping to hear, and when someone adds a bit of realism to a situation, it can lead to them feeling like their problem really is a big problem. So I wouldn’t blame yourself, and I’m also not saying it’s other people’s fault because I don’t know their situation, but I’m hoping this provides you with a bit of comfort on the matter! Please tell me that made sense btw. I’m super tired! XD
  35. 1 point
    AnticNyappy

    Am I a bad person?

    reading this you are not in the wrong! if you believe someone in your life is bringing you down as well you really shouldn't keep them on. I understand your sense of direction because i am the same, people become overly dependent on me and im in no way good in giving advice or comforting people. For awhile i recommend you focus on you and only you! Give yourself a break from the negativity and focus on the more positive aspects in life ^^
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    Gesu

    It's too hot in England 😓

    It's too hot in England 😓
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    goth gf Ryuya is truly the look of looks
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    Grim Dawn, a nice diablo clone game 😃
  41. 1 point
    Great! No kisaki in sight. Let's see what Riku comes up with.
  42. 1 point
    IN SANCTUARY: 君の愛を僕におくれ 肌従しょう こうべ垂れよう 鳴り響くヒールはまるで 脊髄をそっとなぞる痺れアノマリー 僕のエナメルの女王は 僕を見下げ はしゃぐ 蝶のタトゥーが笑う 尊厳も捨てて慣れ果てる僕は家畜 全てを さらけ出そう 貴女に捧げましょうこの身を 僕を砕くんだ 滲む絶頂の快感 僕のエナメルの女王は 僕を見下げ はしゃぐ 蝶のタトゥーが笑う 尊厳も捨てて慣れ果てる僕は家畜 全てを さらけ出そう 貴女に捧げましょう 綺麗に付いた筋をなぞり 微笑んでくれてる君の笑顔に 捧げたんだ何もかも。
  43. 1 point
    Yasashiku Koroshite: 薄暗く照らされた小部屋 私の身体縛った 貴方の湿った指先 一夜を染めて 愛情は歪んでいて きっと私の皮膚に棘 剌すの 優しく殺してよ 淡い色の唇が囁く 軋む腕輪に響く嬌声が重なって そっと白い首に貴方が爪 立てて これで朽ち逝きたい 締まる喉輪 泡立ち 彩って 薄暗く照らされた小部屋 私の身体縛った 貴方の湿った指先 一夜を染めて ”どうか この月に抱かれそっと泣きたい” 愚かな夢に 染まる肌色も満ち次ける 深く突き入れた蛇は毒を注ぎ 肉を溶かして私の中で蜷局を巻く そっと白い肌を優しく指で裂く その柔らかさに黒い痣が浮き立つ 想いのままに跪かせて 這いつくばらせた君の姿に 背筋が震えた このまま次へと行こう さあ踊れ
  44. 1 point
    Duwang

    DIMLIM

    You are correct, it's the same event as the vanitas video that I posted here (or in another DIMLIM thread) a while back. It was a Thursday night and the same day as the Download Festival (3/21) so naturally there was only going to be a few people at that event. They've performed at events where there were even less people (there were maybe 20-25 people here including friends of the bands) Yet they drew in a lot of people for their sponsored event in February. DIMLIM's crowd varies a lot. They have maybe 10? core fans that go pretty much every time and then a bunch of people that go every once in a while. Don't worry about their crowd size for O-West. The band will not be affected negatively if there aren't a lot of people there. O-West doesn't cost that much to rent out. Also the new live limited CD will certainly offset the rental costs. Good thinking on the band's part.
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    helcchi

    DIMLIM

    Metalheads don’t whip their hair like bangya do
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    Gesu

    The Extremely Official MH J-meme Thread

    Additionally
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    TheZigzagoon

    Your last music-related buy!

    Managed to get ahold of that Heresy limited 3 DVD box set from The Gazette, I’m very happy!
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    Damn gotta wait 4 months to know who they are and what they sound like lol
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